i did swap the oem fronts back on and now the ride is much better. it really does feel like a sports car now rather than the bucking bull it was before.
i did compare the stiffness of both front and rear ranchos before putting them on and they were the same. but once installed the front were, to me at least, way too soft. maybe its just the roads i drive that it seems to have more undulations to cause the boat effect.