Redblur,
Welcome to the family. It seems like you're finding your way around the site well, but keep on asking questions. It helps you get information quickly, and it keeps us on our toes.
Sounds like most of your questions have been answered, but I'll put my two cents in here.
Depending on how long your CV boot has been torn will depend on what kind of damage, if any, has been done to the CV. My drivers side inner boot tore and I didn't take care of it and ended up having to have the joint refurbished. Enough grit and junk had made it's way into the joint and it ended up scaring the outer race which is part of the axle that connects to the third member. The axle had to be taken out, the pits and divots in the outer race had to be welded in, and then the whole thing was machined back to specs before it was all put back together. Wasn't cheap so I would suggest getting in there and replacing the boot as soon as you can. In doing all of that I was sourcing out parts in case I had to replace everything so I have a bunch of part numbers for you if you need them. EMPI makes replacement axles and CV joints that we can use. When you find out what you need to replace, if anything, let me know and I can get you enough CV info to make your head hurt.
Your TOD sounds like it's working normally. During normal driving, after about five to ten miles and hour the first light on the front wheels on the dash display should light up and stay lit until you come to a stop. The TOD only throws power forward, to both wheels at once, when the rear tires start to slip and then only for a split second. It never locks into four wheel drive. You have to do that manually.
I think the clunk you're hearing when you stop is fairly normal. Definitly get under there and grease the drive shaft and u-joints and that should quiet it down a little. As I come to a stop my transmission does one final downshift and I can feel the VX lurch. It's always done this, and others have had the same experience.
Glad you found your way here, and if you're like me you won't be wiping that smile off of your face for a long time to come.
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