Looking at the wiring diagrams in the Shop Manual, fuse 23 from that fuse box is called CB-3, or CB-03 depending on the chart you are looking at. It is the fuse for the main engine ECU (Under center lower dash) & The coil packs.
CB-16 (Fuse Locatin 36) is the power for the TOD Computer. CB-04 (Fuse location 24) is for the TOD lights on the dash. All of these locations are supplied by the ignition switch.
Being that the same fuse is for the ECU and the coil packs, and the fuse blows when TOD engages (IE: you are giving it throttle) I would look at the wiring to the coil packs.
However, to your question about disengaging the TOD computer. There are mixed messages. SOme say you can snap a front half shaft. It has happened in at least one instance, however the details of surrounding it are incomplete and lack details. Keep in mind that the wheels are still going to spin the front axle, and the front driveline, and the 4WD side of the transfer case, even with the TOD computer off, while the vehicle is moving. Also keep in mind the age of the vehicle.
However, others have disable the TOD computer without any ill effects reported. With the lack of imperial data, I would say your odds of breaking something are around 50/50.
Good luck in your hunt. Electrical is such a PITA.
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