Stephanie, welcome (back) to the obsession. So sorry to hear about everything that you are going through right now, but it can only get better from here right?
Like any car, the VX can be very reliable depending on how it was taken care of by the previous owner(s). Be sure to take a good look at the VX that you are thinking about, but if it doesn't feel right then walk away. The right VX is out there for you and it may take a little bit to find it. I looked for a year, or more, before finding mine but when I did find her I knew she was the one. There are a few for sale by members here on the site so keep your eyes open. Many of us have gotten our VX's from out of state and either had them shipped home, or flown out and driven them back. There are many members here who would be happy to look at a VX for you if/when you find one far away from you.
Look forward to seeing you around.
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