you are fighting yourself!!! it is not that hard. leave the brake assembly alone. Leave spindle alone. Leave disc alone. Leave wheel bearing alone.
it will stay all attched to the control arms and just fold out of the way. I left you a message...waiting for you to call me like I told you if you had trouble.
you are jacking up the Tbar to relive pressure to take out the 4 bolts under the lower control arm to allow you to move the Lower ball joint bracket above the lower control arm instead of below it. Then when you lower the the jack the lower control arm will go to full droop allowing you to pull cv shaft out of the side you are working on by lifting up on the lower control arm and pulling the cv shaft out.
Stay calm. It is cake walk. I wish I was there to help out.